Dear parent of the failing child in my class,
Though you and I have been on top of it ā¦ Though the IEP is in place ā¦ And though your child is still coming to school every dayāthis is to inform you that your child is failing in all subjects.
You should know that this makes me unbelievably sad. Really. Even my husband has requested that I try to let it go. So I canāt imagine how you are feeling about it.
Thank you for not pointing your finger at me and know that I donāt point my finger at you.
Itās not the failure to get good grades that keeps me awake, itās that this failureĀ might stop your childās curiosity forĀ new things.
And your child is curious. Heās the one who can hardly contain his excitement when we break routine and go outside to blow bubbles in zero degree weather to see if they freeze.
But heās also the child whose head is on the desk as I give homework directions. Itād be impossible not to notice the difference between the two.
Hereās a little secret about your failing child that you might not know: Itās the struggling kids that teachers remember the most. Your child is why I chose to teach.
I want to save your childās dignity. This is the highest common denominator for all human beings: the desire to be treated as something ofĀ value.
Letās agree on a dignified game plan.
- We need to look your child in the eye whenever possible. Children who are seen maintain dignity.
- Weāre going to findĀ things your child likes and invite a discussion about those things. Children whose thoughts are valued have dignity.
- We will keep your child informed about all decisions regardingĀ your childās academic plan. Children who are offered choice feel dignified.
- We will remind ourselves that failing school does not indicate a bad person, but one who needs a different support system. Without others, one cannot feel dignity.
- We will support each other when we are feeling out of control because it really is your childās ship to steer. Independence sparks dignity.
Most sincerely,
The Teacher of a Failing Child
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