Hi, I’m a teacher.
And you might be a parent. And you care about your child a whole lot. You want what’s best for them and for them to feel good about themselves, and to enjoy school, and learn how read, and get a great score on the SAT, and be able to solve tough equations, and make friends.
Well I’ve got great news. So do I.
It’s why teachers devote the vast majority of their time in life surrounded by children, because we care about them. Believe me, we don’t get paid enough to do it for any other reason.
So please trust me when I say that teachers have your child’s best interest at heart. We do. We want your kid to achieve greatness. And if we start from that perspective, we can do amazing things for the life of your child.
But too often, I’ve experienced parents coming from a different perspective. One where the teacher is the enemy. Someone who has it out for your child and devotes all of his or her time to sabotaging your child by giving them an 89 instead of a 90. One who gives children detentions when they really haven’t done anything wrong, singles them out in class and loses their papers.
I’ll sit with a parent and student and say, “Your son did this in class.”
And the parent will turn to the child and say “Is this true?”
Yes, of course it’s true. I’m not making it up. Your kid being in trouble doesn’t bring me joy. Actually, it feels like failure for us teachers when a kid has a bad moment. But we also know that kids learn the most from the tougher moments in life, and sometimes that’s when they get in trouble. And it can be very hard for them to learn that lesson when their errors are swept away by the excuse that it was the teacher’s fault. It’s so difficult to earn students’ respect when they know their parent doesn’t give it.
And it’s almost impossible to teach students when you don’t have their respect.
Teachers, like everyone else, are far from perfect. Of course we make mistakes.
But what if instead of that email with bullet points listing why I am failing your child, you make a phone call saying, “Hi, my son or daughter said this happened in class, and I know there are two sides to every story. I just wanted to hear your end of it.”
Then we can have a conversation. And we can work to get on the same page to best help your child.
I know you love your child more than any other person in the world, and you really do want what’s best for your child. And that’s why you’ve got to trust us to be the professionals that we are.
So here’s what teachers everywhere ask of you: Partner with us. Be a part of our classrooms, share your talents with our kids, join your kids’ learning with us. We’re open to your concerns but also your encouragement.
You are welcome here. Just not hovering over us.
Helicopters are kind of loud.